It’s hard to see what’s best for yourself when you’re invested in a relationship.There’s nothing wrong with admitting a relationship has run its course. Signs of a toxic relationship are sometimes easy to spot—blatant infidelity or physical violence, for example. But there can often be more subtle signs that something’s just not right between you and your partner—or between you and a close friend, a coworker, or a family member. (It’s not just romantic relationships that can become toxic.)
.No matter what form a relationship takes, it’s important to pay attention to how it really makes you feel so that you can make healthier choices to help you do just that Ndolezone has mapped out 5 signs
- All take no give. Any relationship in which you experience withdrawals of energy without deposits will leave you in the negative. Maybe you’re the one who always reaches out, or you always make more of an effort to actually get together. Or maybe your friend only ever wants to talk about him or herself, and never about you.If you’re constantly trying to make them happy, but you’re not getting anything in return, then something in the cycle is disjointed. Happiness should be mutual.
- You feel isolated from other friends; you barely see your friends. If this sounds familiar, it could be a warning sign. You have to understand that sometimes a relationship needs space to grow. It is necessary to give each other space to keep from drowning in the relationship.
- They are quick to point out your flaws Honesty is important in any relationship, and friendships are no exception. However, it’s when the honesty becomes relentless criticism of everything you do that the relationship becomes toxic. You find yourself unable to talk to your friend because you are afraid that they will point out everything you did wrong instead of offering you their support.
- Competition is alive and wellA little healthy competition is one thing – it’s even expected in many close friendships. But having a friend who constantly tries to one-up you is another situation entirely. It’s frustrating and can make you feel jealous or even insecure. Even though these feelings are completely normal, they can get in the way of a healthy friendship. Everyone reacts differently, but it’s not uncommon to respond to competition by being defensive. It can also hold you back from sharing what you’re really experiencing and make it harder to be present in your conversations, which take away from the quality of your connection. If you’re caught up in excessive competition, the dynamic of your friendship might need to be reevaluated.
- They aren’t willing to changeHuman beings are constantly changing. Change is important in relationships. To maintain relationships and grow as people you should be able to change and adapt to each other to an extent that is beneficial to both of you. Friends who are set in their ways, which may not necessarily be right, and don’t attempt to change and grow are toxic to your life.
Ultimately, recognizing that a friendship is unhealthy doesn’t mean than we need to cut ties entirely. Changing behavior or friendship dynamics isn’t easy. But the best sign of a healthy friendship is the ability to communicate your own feelings and needs, openness to hearing your friend’s, and a willingness to work on things together.Good friends want the best for you and are your biggest cheerleaders. Toxic friends will act jealous, mean spirited and may even try to sabotage your hopes and dreams.